Several Ways to Cope With Your Friend Getting Married, While You are Still Single!

Posted by The Marksman at 21 April, at 13 : 20 PM Print

So your friend is getting married, and you look down at your finger and nope there is still no ring there.  Wait you are totally happy for her, right?  Apparently this situation has brought out some feelings of envy, self-doubt, and fears about whether you’ll ever find the right guy as well.  You have never felt this way before, and are now in foreign territory with your feelings.  Here is how to deal with all those conflicting emotions.

Face it your girl is getting hitched, and it is perfectly normal to be a little bit jealous.  It would not be normal if you did not envy your friend a little for being a bride before you.  Provided that is what you want for yourself.  The root of jealousy is fear, much like everything else in this world we fear what we do not know.  What are you fearful of, is it that your friendship with her will change as her life evolves, or that you will never have your chance to be a bride?  You have to remember she is your friend first and foremost, and being jealous of her can ruin a friendship.  Your day will come soon enough just be patient.

The key is to not beat yourself up because your friend became a bride first.  Once you get stuck in a downward spiral of self-doubt, where you question why you have not met Mr. Right it is tough to dig your way out. Negative thoughts such as these lead to negative attitudes and resentment starts to build up.  All of a sudden you find yourself bad mouthing your friend, and telling anyone that will listen how their marriage is going to fail.  Keep your thoughts positive and you can avoid falling into this mindset.

You have to ask yourself even if Mr. Right came along are you actually ready to tie the knot?  Perhaps your life is so busy at the present time that it would actually be bad to meet Mr. Right in the near future because you would not have any time to develop a serious relationship.  Maybe there are things about being single that you actually like the fact that you can flirt with any guy at any time and indulge yourself any way you want for example.  Focus on where you are in your life right now and the positive things you have going on rather than your perception of what is missing.

You are probably already involved in the wedding planning somehow, maybe by organizing the bachelorette party.  If you are not consider doing something special for her that highlights your friendship , you may want to put up a website devoted to photos and funny captions of the two of you through the years.  Focusing your energy that way will distract you from dwelling on the negatives.

If you are helping to plan her wedding than that means you are probably good friends.  Suck it up and tell your friend how you feel, most people will understand those feelings and be supportive.  Tell here that you’ve been out of sorts since she first showed you her engagement rock, more than like she had already sensed your inner turmoil and may have been wondering how you felt.

Let her know that while you do not want to rain on her parade, her nuptials have left you a little wigged out and wondering if you’ll achieve the same bliss she’s found. Then, leave it at that. She’ll appreciate your honesty, without feeling like she has to make up for the fact that she’s getting hitched.  This will strengthen your bond and allow both of you to enjoy the wedding without negative feelings, unless of course your friend is bitter and curses you out for thinking such things.

No related posts.

Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

Featured Articles Friendship & Family bachelorette, being a bride, best friends wedding, conflicting emotions, engagement, envy, friendship, hitched, jealousy, marriage, Mr. Right, serious relationship