Stalking vs Courting, A Tough Lesson in Self Respect.

Posted by Greg Dragon at 17 August, at 09 : 53 AM Print

Here is another great article by Greg Dragon from Hall of The Black Dragon, enjoy.

One of the goals that the Hall of The Black Dragon serves is to help young men realize their potential in the balance of gangster grit with a gentleman’s suave. We intend to help grow young James Bonds and preserve manliness in a world that is hell bent on telling us that manliness is wrong. So if at times I seem to harp on what you call “Neanderthal” principles and then contradict it with an article about pampering your lady, you must understand that the two are not mutually exclusive. You have to learn to be a knife my friends, your surface being smooth and refined, your edge being absolutely deadly. So it pains me to see a man play himself for the herb (an uncool person), chasing a woman who has no interest in him, to the point where he appears very much like a dog looking for a leg to hump. In this last week I have seen one guy text the hell out of a female professing his love – before even getting a first date. Another guy told me he kept asking this chick out for a year and waiting for her to get single in hopes of getting that date. While the latter may seem the stuff of stories, in actuality it rings of pathetic and behind his stalking back, the girl is laughing at him.

Stop Playing Yourself
Fellas it’s not just up to you, your actions will get back to everyone eventually. You may feel that you are stalking a chick and it’s between the two of you but in reality she’s going to air it out on Facebook, to her friends and a blog or two. While stalking a chick may yield firm results from a woman who wants to be heavily chased, or a weak woman who succumbs out of desperation, most women will want to mace you. She will tell all of her friends that you are a creepy, scary stalker and if you’re really unlucky, her big brother or father will try to fight/kill you. Oft times the stalking persists because women fear for our feelings and will not straight up deliver rejection. I have had many women ask me for advice when they have a guy latched on and I always say the same thing “diss him hard”. There is a reason for this, many of us men cannot take hints, this isn’t a theory it is a fact. If you are trying to be nice to a guy by “letting him down easy” then you are a damn fool and he will never let up.

No woman is that banging and worthy of stalking in my book, but in the standard issue given to guys, some women are worth the pursuit. I know a ton of you are guilty of this stalking activity, but if she’s THE ONE, and you cannot get over your infatuation, make sure you do it in a healthy way. It saddens me to see guys having restraining orders slapped against them or women having to purchase handguns because some fool crossed the line. Lust like that has toppled nations in history and when a man has picked up the scent of an irresistible woman sometimes it does take a bullet to put him back in pocket. But seriously women, stop enabling this crap, tell that dude you’re not feeling him and you will never go out on a date with him and cut it off from jump. If you choose to play with fire by keeping him at arm’s reach then don’t complain when he’s at your window watching you sleep at night.

Stalking is not Courting
Stalking is NOT COURTING, let me explain: there will be many married couples whose wives will tell you “he kept bugging me until I gave in”. That was the result of a hunt, court, and lock situation – she played the coy female, he the persistent lover and it paid off well for him in the end. Most of these marriages last a long time, hell your grandma probably told you that story. But see that was a time period when the roles were defined and a guy had to chase a woman in order to show genuine interest. Sylvester Stallone in the movies F.I.S.T. and Rocky exemplified the old school chase and court scenario. He would ask the lady out, walk her home and stay in her face until she finally gave him a chance and the resulting love was fierce. Nowadays if a guy is into a girl hard enough to do this then if she isn’t feeling him he will only look like a jackass. If the woman won’t meet you halfway with some sort of signal then get a clue and move on. If you’re having a hard time differentiating persistence and stalking, here are a few scenarios that could be seen as stalking:

• You’ve had one bad date with a girl you met online, she told you that she doesn’t feel any chemistry with you and it won’t work out. You send her a friend request on facebook and persist to commenting on how fine she is in all her pics, calling every other week to see if she wants to go out…
• You met a chick in the Club, got the number and have tried for a month to get her to go out with you. She is always busy or unavailable. You know she works at the mall so you show up at her job to try…
• You and your girlfriend break up due to an unforgiveable offense (you had sex with her mom), you send candy, roses etc. no response, you call her up she doesn’t answer, you wait outside her house…
• Your ex changes her number and email to get away from you, you get the new number from her friend even after she tells you that she wants nothing to do with you…

It’s about self-respect and confidence fellas and if you lack self-respect then you will look like that dude outside the sleeping woman’s window touching himself. Nobody likes to be stalked, like I said it’s not the same as persistent courting, get a clue and cut this stuff out. If a woman doesn’t want you then move on and find another, if you find yourself smitten then take care to respect her space. It’s not that hard, stop stalking.

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